By author Jim C. Hines (via)
Wow. Notice how in every situation, the perpetrator is not held accountable. This is how rape culture works.
This is why I love Jim C. Hines. He’s one of my favorite authors, for so many fucking reasons.
(and in before “but women have said the same damn thing before and get no credit for it” - yes, I know, and it breaks my heart, and he’s aware of that fact too)
But, even if you’re not fat, if you’re a woman, you’re probably still so caught up with your toxic weight shit that you can’t even see straight. During my working life I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been part of these ridiculous workplace group diets. Almost all of the participants have been women. Sometimes they even try to bribe one another with money. They all put in ten dollars on the first week and whoever loses the most wins the pool at the end of 4 months, or whatever it is. Look, I’m like you. I’ve done it too. And at a perfectly normal, healthy weight I’ve done it. All because of a sick, shitful, ugly little voice in the back of my head that tells me I ought to be smaller.
And that’s the rub, right there. Exactly why do we want to be smaller? What exactly is the appeal of being smaller? How does it benefit us? Does it make us better mothers? Better students? Better lovers? Better artists? Scientists? Friends? Does it make us more badass badasses?
No, no, no, no, no. You must see that it doesn’t. It doesn’t do anything but make us smaller.
Babies and puppies are small. So are dimes and Skittles. You’re a fucking woman. A woman! You are entitled to occupy as much fucking space as you like with your awesomeness, and you better be suspicious as fuck of anybody who tells you differently.
Why, ladies? Why must we continue to whittle ourselves down? Who is it for? What is it for? You can walk through a certain aisle at the pharmacy or at the grocery store and see the language of diminishment all over the packaging for weight loss aids of all kinds. “Shrink your waist.” “Lose inches off your thighs.” “Slim down.” “Get skinny.”
How about “Grow your mind.” “Increase your confidence and productivity.” “Beef up your knowledge.” “Enlarge your scope of asskicking.”
That’s a valid message for women and girls: grow, expand, branch out, open up, get bigger, wider, faster, stronger, better, smarter. Go up not down. Get strong, not skinny.
You are not here to get smaller. You are not here to have a thin waist and thighs. You are not here to disappear. You’re here to change the world! Change the fucking world, then! Forget about “losing a few pounds.” Think about what you could be gaining instead.
The family portrait from Friday’s episode, 204, “Civil Wars, Part 2.”
Drawn by Christie Tseng, character tones by Sylvia Filcak-Blackwolf, background painting by Emily Tetri, art director stuff by me.
Maybe the reason Lolita fashion freaks people out
Is because it’s feminine, but it’s noticeable and takes up space
When our society wants femininity to be about being small and unnoticeable
And people who subscribe to that can’t handle that Lolita is delicate and feminine while demanding attention, while taking up room that is rightfully ours in a world that wants the feminine to be contained
Makes absolute sense.
We all agree that Josh Hutcherson looks like Squirtle
im not sure how
but i can see it
Well? Someone put up Squirtle for comparison
|—||“Gender Bias in College Admissions Tests”, FairTest.org (via albinwonderland)|
these people BURNED DOWN A HOUSE of a rape victim because she accused the (grand?)son of a senator and was a football player
their family was driven out of town
if this was in india or pakistan, imagine the reaction that americans would have. the outrage, obama would probably make a speech on it to save women again but these people are sick freaks in america so no one gives a shit they were THIRTEEN AND FOURTEEN
like tbh i feel like my problem with the “dark and gritty!!” trend in modern stories is this
there’s this idea in our culture that cynicism is realistic? that only children believe in happy endings, that people are ultimately selfish and greedy and seeing…
I gasped out loud
This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.
What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.
You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works.
|—||Of course all men don’t hate women. But all men must know they benefit from sexism (via albinwonderland)|